Sometimes It’s The Little Things That Seem So Obvious

Ever notice something about a person’s life or situation that seems very obvious to you, but the person that you’re talking to doesn’t notice?  Or, it seems that they have been repeating the same pattern over and over again, but they haven’t noticed the connections between their patterns and their life situations?

I have the privilege of hearing people’s life stories on 74efb1530f8e39d1f7c311184c1c67eca daily basis.  I recognize patterns or behaviors very quickly, but I’m bothered when some clients are blind to these (because they don’t want to see?).  My role as a coach is to point out these behaviors and patterns, to help people see things that are obvious to everyone else, and to help them recognize the effects on their life.

Let me explain …

Of course, it sure seems obvious to me that your relationship is not going down a happy path when your husband or boyfriend doesn’t come home for nights on end, texts pictures of his “body parts” to others, or drinks too much, or does drugs, or has a serious gambling problem, etc. etc. etc.  The list goes on and on.  I know that you are unhappy and uncertain (you’ve been telling me this for weeks) but you can’t (or won’t) see or accept the pattern of behavior that is there in front of your eyes and can’t (or won’t) put “2 + 2” together and see the situation that is obvious to the rest of us. Instead you excuse it away.

How about another example …

You come to me and tell me how lousy you feel, how your clothes don’t fit well anymore, how you have no energy or drive.  Yet, you have no idea why this is happening to you.

When I look at your life, I see you driving through Bojangles or McDonalds several days each week (you stated), swinging through Starbucks each day for that cafe latteIMG_0414 with that 370 calorie (19 grams of fat) cookie to go with it (“it’s only one cookie!”).  Snack all day, eat enormous portion sizes, and … dare I say it … keep putting off joining the gym or doing any exercise at all.  It’s no surprise to me to see why you have a weight issue or at the very least why you don’t feel good.  I mean, I’m no rocket scientist, but of course you don’t feel well!

Okay, the point I want to make and the “message for the day” is to


PLEASE PLEASE PLEASE stop pretending that you don’t see these behaviors, patterns, and the ‘red flags’ that are warning you of issues in your life.  Take care of yourself!  Stop ignoring the signs and that little voice of wisdom inside of you when it speaks shouts!

IMG_1708You don’t have to sign up for a marathon, or make a similar life-altering change to make improvements in your life.  Instead, start small.  Pick one aspect of your life to start with (like eating healthier, moving your body, etc.) and make that work.  Stick with it and start feeling the benefits, by making then add another small change.  You’ll build on one success after the other, create new and lasting habits and, before you know it, you’ll see the improvements and enjoy a happier, healthier life.



Do You Think Trees Are Rooted In Fear Or Unhappiness?

565032_425759924150868_1276026420_n copyDo you know what I love about trees? They are so beautiful to look at especially in the fall when the colors change from lush greens to brilliant hues of reds, oranges and yellows. I like that trees offer shade when needed on those hot summer days, and they can offer guidance if necessary to help you make your way through a forest (like, let’s say if you are lost).  Speaking of a forest, that happens to be my favorite place to sit and meditate. I like the feelings I get when sitting under a tree, and the smell of the wood and moss, or when I hear the birds chirp in the branches above. Trees offer us protection from the elements and provide us wood to build homes.  They have medicinal healing properties and provide food to the many animals and insects.

Trees can live for hundreds of years. The current individual tree record-holders are the Great Basin Bristlecone Pine trees from California and Nevada in the United States. A colony of 47,000 quaking aspen trees is considered one of the oldest and largest organisms in the world. The colony has been estimated to be 80,000 years old. Kind of cool, huh?

photo 27 copyNow listen to this, and please smile when you read, that while we both may like trees, YOU are not one.  You are a human being.  Code word: B-E-I-N-G!  We were not made to necessarily grow and stay in one spot FOREVER MORE!  We were created to expand, to move, to grow, and experience all that we came here to experience.  Not necessarily stay in one spot for hundreds of years!  Especially and I do mean this, especially if you’re unhappy.

Now here’s the whole point of today’s post …… If you don’t like where you are, then move. You are not a tree, you’re not stuck in one place!  Tree - Move

We can all have a bad day from time to time, so I am not speaking of that, but what I am speaking of is if you are unhappy the majority of the time.

If you are gripping and complaining constantly about this situation or that situation, or about your current employment, or your current partner/spouse, or the town of which you live, or of your body size, or worse yet, all of these things!


IMG_0497You have the ability to make some changes, move and create something new.  If you are unhappy, do anything you can to find happiness.  Let’s consider me the voice of reason, or at the very least the urging of your soul …. move out of that lousy relationship, change your employment or career, go to school or back to school, find some interests in life and begin a hobby or move from your city or state in which you live.  You were never meant to stay in any of those things for life.  Especially if you are unhappy.  Stop being rigid or afraid and move yourself into another direction.

Hey even an unhappy or sick tree can get transplanted to another location if necessary.  So stop sticking your roots into unhappiness and fear, you have the ability to move.

Let me help you by using my inner guidance to help you find yours!