Ella’s Special Day

The other day I had the opportunity to meet one of the nicest and bravest little girls you could ever know.  This is the story of Ella, who is now officially my youngest client ever.  Ella is eight years old, and is bright and cute as a shiny new button!  “Ella” means ‘All’ in German and her middle name “Carys” is Welsh and means “Love” … don’t you just love that?!

Ella-225x300 Angie, Ella’s mom, has been out to my wellness center on several occasions for sessions on the John of God Crystal Healing Bed.  She has really enjoyed her experiences and, over the course of just a few sessions, Angie has been feeling better overall and happier since coming out to see me.  After her last healing session, Angie asked me if she could bring her daughter Ella here for an appointment.  Angie told me that Ella has a rash on her body that had been there for several months, and no matter what she did or what she used, this stubborn rash wouldn’t clear up.  She had taken Ella to a doctor and still this rash lingered on for several months.

After thinking about it for a few moments, I said yes, though I was a bit concerned with her daughter’s young age, wondering if an active eight year old could lie still on a table for at least 30 minutes, not to mention being in a darkened room with things that sometimes do more than “bump” in the night!  I want Ella to experience the healing with the Entities but also not be too frightened either.  Angie assured me that even though she was eight, Ella had been exposed to meditation and guided imagery and, because of this, Angie felt that she could lie still and be okay.

Later that day, Angie told Ella that she had made the appointment for her and they talked about things that may happen while under the special crystal lights.  The next morning Angie called me to ask me it would be okay if Ella could bring her favorite stuffed bunny rabbits with her.  She described them as small and white and that Ella has had them since she was a baby.  “Yes, of course” I said, “Anything to help her to feel comfortable and safe.”

Upon the morning of her special day, Ella arrived and excitedly began to show me her two little stuffed bunnies, all the while seeking the visual approval from me.  Angie proceeded to tell me that the night before they practiced what it would be like to lie on the John of God bed.  They covered everything Angie could think of, including where she should place her hands, where her arms needed to be, and what would happen if she had an itch or sneeze.  (Side note – I thought was brilliant of this young mom!)  Angie felt compelled to ask me one more time if I felt okay for to have her stuffed animals with her.  I assured her that I was quite comfortable with this and that I was sure it would not hinder the process in any way.  Both Ella and Mom were apprehensive, but definitely excited, as we got started.  As soon as we entered the room, Ella stopped, then looked at me and said, ”Here, take them.  I don’t need them anymore”.  Surprised, I looked down at Ella and said, “Are you sure?  I mean, I don’t mind it at all if you want to hold them while you’re on the crystal bed?”  With firm conviction, Ella looked me straight in the eye and said “Yes, I am sure, I don’t need them anymore.  I know I will be fine!”  So, I took her cute protective companions and placed them on the chair next to the healing bed so they could keep watch over Ella.  (Heck, I thought that she was acting very brave.  I’ve seen adults be more afraid of “what could possibly happen” while they were left alone in the funny room of the pulsing lights.)  With all apprehension disappearing, and feeling the session about to begin, I got Ella comfortable on the crystal bed, cracked the door open and left the room.  About 30 minutes later I was greeted with a happy little girl who told me of the pokes and prods and tingling sensations that she felt all over her body.  But what made her feel really really good was, right before I walked back into the room, a lady (angel) cupped her face, held it for a moment, and then placed a kiss on her forehead.

Two days later, Angie called me to tell me that Ella’s rash had mostly vanished, with almost all of the red skin and bumps and scarring marks gone.  I told Angie that I was very proud of her daughter and thought that she was very brave for actually giving up her stuffed animals and for being alone in the room.  I said that some people are actually nervous about what they may experience while under the crystal lights.  Angie later told Ella that I thought she was a remarkable and very brave little girl.  She told Ella that I was going to share her story of bravery to others that come to my wellness center.

Well, according to Angie, Ella didn’t quite understand what all the fuss was about. She put her hand on her hips and said “I don’t know why everyone’s making such a big deal about it!  I mean, I read the sign.”  Confused by this remark, Angie said, “What sign are you talking about?”  Ella annoyingly replied, “The one on the wall!”  She told her mother that after she read the sign, she knew that she was safe.  Ella said that she realized that no harm could come to her while she was in the safety zone.

Angie called me laughing, though puzzled, and asked me “What is my daughter talking about?  What sign?  I’ve been there numerous times and I don’t remember reading a sign before I entered the healing room!”  It took me a few minutes to think about all the things that hung in my office, but then it came to me.  I went over to the wall and snapped this picture.


This little sign was made for me to put in the meditation room where everyone gathers.  It is here so that everyone who enters knows they are in the “Spiritual Safety Zone” and reminds us all that we are safe and loved in this space.  All I can say is that I’m glad that Ella read this sign and explicitly understood its truest meaning.


Sometimes It’s The Little Things That Seem So Obvious

Ever notice something about a person’s life or situation that seems very obvious to you, but the person that you’re talking to doesn’t notice?  Or, it seems that they have been repeating the same pattern over and over again, but they haven’t noticed the connections between their patterns and their life situations?

I have the privilege of hearing people’s life stories on 74efb1530f8e39d1f7c311184c1c67eca daily basis.  I recognize patterns or behaviors very quickly, but I’m bothered when some clients are blind to these (because they don’t want to see?).  My role as a coach is to point out these behaviors and patterns, to help people see things that are obvious to everyone else, and to help them recognize the effects on their life.

Let me explain …

Of course, it sure seems obvious to me that your relationship is not going down a happy path when your husband or boyfriend doesn’t come home for nights on end, texts pictures of his “body parts” to others, or drinks too much, or does drugs, or has a serious gambling problem, etc. etc. etc.  The list goes on and on.  I know that you are unhappy and uncertain (you’ve been telling me this for weeks) but you can’t (or won’t) see or accept the pattern of behavior that is there in front of your eyes and can’t (or won’t) put “2 + 2” together and see the situation that is obvious to the rest of us. Instead you excuse it away.

How about another example …

You come to me and tell me how lousy you feel, how your clothes don’t fit well anymore, how you have no energy or drive.  Yet, you have no idea why this is happening to you.

When I look at your life, I see you driving through Bojangles or McDonalds several days each week (you stated), swinging through Starbucks each day for that cafe latteIMG_0414 with that 370 calorie (19 grams of fat) cookie to go with it (“it’s only one cookie!”).  Snack all day, eat enormous portion sizes, and … dare I say it … keep putting off joining the gym or doing any exercise at all.  It’s no surprise to me to see why you have a weight issue or at the very least why you don’t feel good.  I mean, I’m no rocket scientist, but of course you don’t feel well!

Okay, the point I want to make and the “message for the day” is to


PLEASE PLEASE PLEASE stop pretending that you don’t see these behaviors, patterns, and the ‘red flags’ that are warning you of issues in your life.  Take care of yourself!  Stop ignoring the signs and that little voice of wisdom inside of you when it speaks shouts!

IMG_1708You don’t have to sign up for a marathon, or make a similar life-altering change to make improvements in your life.  Instead, start small.  Pick one aspect of your life to start with (like eating healthier, moving your body, etc.) and make that work.  Stick with it and start feeling the benefits, by making then add another small change.  You’ll build on one success after the other, create new and lasting habits and, before you know it, you’ll see the improvements and enjoy a happier, healthier life.


Ever have one of these exposed days?

Ever have one of these days?


Usually I am (thankfully) pretty even tempered. I am not hormonal, as a rule, so I don’t fluctuate a whole lot. If anything, I may get hyper or excitable over something really good or something I enjoy a lot, like a mint chocolate chip ice cream cone or a cute picture of a Boston Terrier that someone posted on Facebook.  Or, maybe a texting marathon into the wee hours of the night with my daughter over the show details of The Bachelorette (she likes short shrimpy men).  Yeah, I’m really that easy!  But, I can honestly say that I don’t experience too many bad moody days.

Except for the other day, I am almost embarrassed to admit  ….. I snapped like a twig. I irritatingly rushed to answer my phone (during my lunch, mind you) while going through emails at my desk and simply trying to do too many tasks at once.  On the other end of my phone was this cool sounding seasoned telemarketer with an extremely heavy Indian accent.  She could have cared less that I couldn’t make heads or tails out of the company she was with, or that I couldn’t make out the purpose of the call.  Me, the hot-tempered raving lunatic was, let’s just say, less than ‘cool’ as my mind still tried to grasp the name of her company.  I felt my blood pressure rise as she continued on with her rehearsed script and me, the Pit Bull, was unwilling to be amused by her memorized lines.

I was like a CRAZY person …. a completely imbalanced bitch from hell …. as I caught myself yelling into the phone!  She was trying to sell me eyelash serum!  Eyelash serum!  I wasted 60 seconds (well, it felt a whole lot longer at the time) of my overworked, multitasked life for eyelash serum!

“Oh yeah, Diahanna, you’re really a pro” I thought, angry at myself for the unwarranted outburst and misdirected anger.

So, I decided to cool off, sit quietly in my room, and chill out.  I was like a lunatic, and this whole episode felt odd.  Before I left the office for home, I decided to deal with every thing that was truly bothering me.  My goal was to get rid of it, get it off my plate, and to never speak of it again.  Why?  Because if I told my husband or vented to a friend (or maybe two), I would relive this sense of aggravation each and every time I spoke of it.  Bringing it up over and over again, which may appear as harmless, takes things in the opposite direction of where I want to be and what I want to feel.

Message for the day:

Handle quickly and with as little effort as possible what ever it is that is keeping you from feeling good.  I did that, and never spoke of it again (example: the telemarketer).  I didn’t run home and tell my husband that I had a “bad” day, I simply kept my mouth shut and distracted myself with things to help me feel just a little bit better.  Sometimes, that is the quickest path to get back on the road to a happier life.  For instance, you could take a walk, play with your dog, throw a ball in the backyard, color or paint, or read a book, sing with the radio, or play the piano.  Just do anything to distract yourself from your “problem” and move yourself into a better feeling. Keep it up lithely little and you will begin to feel better and better.  Then, just get on with living happily.

Eye lash serum anyone?

Do You Think Trees Are Rooted In Fear Or Unhappiness?

565032_425759924150868_1276026420_n copyDo you know what I love about trees? They are so beautiful to look at especially in the fall when the colors change from lush greens to brilliant hues of reds, oranges and yellows. I like that trees offer shade when needed on those hot summer days, and they can offer guidance if necessary to help you make your way through a forest (like, let’s say if you are lost).  Speaking of a forest, that happens to be my favorite place to sit and meditate. I like the feelings I get when sitting under a tree, and the smell of the wood and moss, or when I hear the birds chirp in the branches above. Trees offer us protection from the elements and provide us wood to build homes.  They have medicinal healing properties and provide food to the many animals and insects.

Trees can live for hundreds of years. The current individual tree record-holders are the Great Basin Bristlecone Pine trees from California and Nevada in the United States. A colony of 47,000 quaking aspen trees is considered one of the oldest and largest organisms in the world. The colony has been estimated to be 80,000 years old. Kind of cool, huh?

photo 27 copyNow listen to this, and please smile when you read, that while we both may like trees, YOU are not one.  You are a human being.  Code word: B-E-I-N-G!  We were not made to necessarily grow and stay in one spot FOREVER MORE!  We were created to expand, to move, to grow, and experience all that we came here to experience.  Not necessarily stay in one spot for hundreds of years!  Especially and I do mean this, especially if you’re unhappy.

Now here’s the whole point of today’s post …… If you don’t like where you are, then move. You are not a tree, you’re not stuck in one place!  Tree - Move

We can all have a bad day from time to time, so I am not speaking of that, but what I am speaking of is if you are unhappy the majority of the time.

If you are gripping and complaining constantly about this situation or that situation, or about your current employment, or your current partner/spouse, or the town of which you live, or of your body size, or worse yet, all of these things!


IMG_0497You have the ability to make some changes, move and create something new.  If you are unhappy, do anything you can to find happiness.  Let’s consider me the voice of reason, or at the very least the urging of your soul …. move out of that lousy relationship, change your employment or career, go to school or back to school, find some interests in life and begin a hobby or move from your city or state in which you live.  You were never meant to stay in any of those things for life.  Especially if you are unhappy.  Stop being rigid or afraid and move yourself into another direction.

Hey even an unhappy or sick tree can get transplanted to another location if necessary.  So stop sticking your roots into unhappiness and fear, you have the ability to move.

Let me help you by using my inner guidance to help you find yours! Email:insights0333@gmail.com

A Little Bit of Wisdom From A Cookie

Who knew that there could actually be some wisdom found on a tiny piece of paper rolled into a “dessert” cookie?  I’m talking about those little crisp fortune cookies that are always on the tray with the bill that the waiter brings over to your table when you are finished eating Chinese food. (Which, incidentally, is crazy in that they do not actually originate from China but rather from a factory in the United States, based out of California. Who knew?)

The other day my husband read a message in one of our ‘fortune’ cookies and, as he passed the note over to me, said “Now that’s a blog post.” Sure enough, it certainly was.


The little message (complete with the winning lottery numbers on the back) said “You can’t steal second base with one foot on first”.

OMG!  How often in a week’s time might I repeat this message to one of my clients or friends!  I may not use those exact words, but the message is the same.

You can’t move forward in life if you’re looking behind you.

You can’t start a new chapter if you haven’t closed the last one.don't look back

Don’t look back  ……. you’re not going that way

You can’t find Mr. Right if you’re holding unto Mr. Wrong (term used loosely here to make a point).

Simply put, you must let go in order to move ahead.

The importance of this statement is so profound!  I could write about this subject for days and days (but then this post would be thousands of words instead of a couple of hundred and that’s not a post but rather a book!).

So, what is your first base?  What are you holding on to?  Is there anything that you need to let go of?  Are you willing to let it go today in order to move forward?

Take a minute to think about it.  Write about it in a journal.  Think about what’s at stake if you don’t make any changes.  Is keeping your foot on your first base necessary in your life now or is it time for a change?

Today’s your day to steal second ….

Stolen base
Run Baby, Run!!!

Who Is This For and What Are We All Blogging About Anyway?

I am new to blogging but not exactly new to writing.  Years ago, I was a contributing columnist for a multi-town newspaper.  I am frequently asked if I have ever written a book or told that I should write a book.  The answer is no, I have not written a book, but I do think about writing one from time to time.  Perhaps I will begin that adventure in my near future.  Meanwhile, I’ll blog.

howtowriteadiarySo, since I am new to blogging, I have started reading other blogger’s posts to gain insight as to ‘how’ to blog.  I notice that many bloggers write about things that are happening in their daily lives, but I am not sure I understand who they are targeting as their audience.  Their writing often sounds like a journal or diary entry to me, which might be good for venting or healing their inner self, but is something I highly doubt I’ll ever read again.

Which got me thinking …. to whom am I writing?  Who is my audience?  More importantly, what’s the purpose or the main focus of my blog?

I have a private practice where I teach people how to feel better about themselves or teach them how to change behaviors within themselves to create more of what they want and less of what they don’t.  I love helping people to reach higher, feel better and I love having a place to have others gather together to learn and grow.   I do enjoy what I do, and through this blog I want to continue to help others.  I love the idea of a writing forum like this to start conversations with my friends (old and new) and my family to help us all grow.  I love the friends I have made (and will make) along this journey and I love to laugh with them.

Laughing out loud is the best feeling in the world … maybe getting a group of us laughing together is the answer to world peace! (Hey, it’s my blog, I can write what I want!)  Maybe together we will all leave this world just a little bit happier.

13450141_1752671554955741_4652985422716698296_nAt the very least, these blogs are for my daughter.  I want her to have the best life possible, and to learn from my mistakes, my silliness, and from my inner wisdom.  I want her to know that I always see her highest potential, even when she herself can no longer see it.  Especially when she is in darkness, I become her light.  I am the guidance like a lighthouse to the approaching ships.

Through these writings, I can become yours too.

I encourage all of you to please enjoy my blog and give me a thumbs up if you like what you read.  Pass my blog around and invite others to join in on the conversation (the more the merrier!).


I’m So Motivated, I Think

Dear Journal,

Has this ever happened to you?

I have a new Boston Terrier dog that joined our family just a few short months ago. At first I noticed (worried) that she was way more “high energy” than our other dogs.  But, do you know what I love about her?  Her excitement!  She goes after a toy or ball with a great burst of energy and playfulness, but luckily for me, its over in a few short minutes!  Ha!  A burst of enthusiastic joy and then she’s done.  I love it!

That is what I notice about ‘some’ clients too. They have these great ideas, they leave here feeling inspired, and I love that.  Some even begin to take action right away.  But, I do have a few that eagerly write out their goals and priorities just like our feline friend in the cartoon below …


I know, I laughed too!

Don’t be like this client …. wake up and follow thru