Ella’s Special Day

The other day I had the opportunity to meet one of the nicest and bravest little girls you could ever know.  This is the story of Ella, who is now officially my youngest client ever.  Ella is eight years old, and is bright and cute as a shiny new button!  “Ella” means ‘All’ in German and her middle name “Carys” is Welsh and means “Love” … don’t you just love that?!

Ella-225x300 Angie, Ella’s mom, has been out to my wellness center on several occasions for sessions on the John of God Crystal Healing Bed.  She has really enjoyed her experiences and, over the course of just a few sessions, Angie has been feeling better overall and happier since coming out to see me.  After her last healing session, Angie asked me if she could bring her daughter Ella here for an appointment.  Angie told me that Ella has a rash on her body that had been there for several months, and no matter what she did or what she used, this stubborn rash wouldn’t clear up.  She had taken Ella to a doctor and still this rash lingered on for several months.

After thinking about it for a few moments, I said yes, though I was a bit concerned with her daughter’s young age, wondering if an active eight year old could lie still on a table for at least 30 minutes, not to mention being in a darkened room with things that sometimes do more than “bump” in the night!  I want Ella to experience the healing with the Entities but also not be too frightened either.  Angie assured me that even though she was eight, Ella had been exposed to meditation and guided imagery and, because of this, Angie felt that she could lie still and be okay.

Later that day, Angie told Ella that she had made the appointment for her and they talked about things that may happen while under the special crystal lights.  The next morning Angie called me to ask me it would be okay if Ella could bring her favorite stuffed bunny rabbits with her.  She described them as small and white and that Ella has had them since she was a baby.  “Yes, of course” I said, “Anything to help her to feel comfortable and safe.”

Upon the morning of her special day, Ella arrived and excitedly began to show me her two little stuffed bunnies, all the while seeking the visual approval from me.  Angie proceeded to tell me that the night before they practiced what it would be like to lie on the John of God bed.  They covered everything Angie could think of, including where she should place her hands, where her arms needed to be, and what would happen if she had an itch or sneeze.  (Side note – I thought was brilliant of this young mom!)  Angie felt compelled to ask me one more time if I felt okay for to have her stuffed animals with her.  I assured her that I was quite comfortable with this and that I was sure it would not hinder the process in any way.  Both Ella and Mom were apprehensive, but definitely excited, as we got started.  As soon as we entered the room, Ella stopped, then looked at me and said, ”Here, take them.  I don’t need them anymore”.  Surprised, I looked down at Ella and said, “Are you sure?  I mean, I don’t mind it at all if you want to hold them while you’re on the crystal bed?”  With firm conviction, Ella looked me straight in the eye and said “Yes, I am sure, I don’t need them anymore.  I know I will be fine!”  So, I took her cute protective companions and placed them on the chair next to the healing bed so they could keep watch over Ella.  (Heck, I thought that she was acting very brave.  I’ve seen adults be more afraid of “what could possibly happen” while they were left alone in the funny room of the pulsing lights.)  With all apprehension disappearing, and feeling the session about to begin, I got Ella comfortable on the crystal bed, cracked the door open and left the room.  About 30 minutes later I was greeted with a happy little girl who told me of the pokes and prods and tingling sensations that she felt all over her body.  But what made her feel really really good was, right before I walked back into the room, a lady (angel) cupped her face, held it for a moment, and then placed a kiss on her forehead.

Two days later, Angie called me to tell me that Ella’s rash had mostly vanished, with almost all of the red skin and bumps and scarring marks gone.  I told Angie that I was very proud of her daughter and thought that she was very brave for actually giving up her stuffed animals and for being alone in the room.  I said that some people are actually nervous about what they may experience while under the crystal lights.  Angie later told Ella that I thought she was a remarkable and very brave little girl.  She told Ella that I was going to share her story of bravery to others that come to my wellness center.

Well, according to Angie, Ella didn’t quite understand what all the fuss was about. She put her hand on her hips and said “I don’t know why everyone’s making such a big deal about it!  I mean, I read the sign.”  Confused by this remark, Angie said, “What sign are you talking about?”  Ella annoyingly replied, “The one on the wall!”  She told her mother that after she read the sign, she knew that she was safe.  Ella said that she realized that no harm could come to her while she was in the safety zone.

Angie called me laughing, though puzzled, and asked me “What is my daughter talking about?  What sign?  I’ve been there numerous times and I don’t remember reading a sign before I entered the healing room!”  It took me a few minutes to think about all the things that hung in my office, but then it came to me.  I went over to the wall and snapped this picture.

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This little sign was made for me to put in the meditation room where everyone gathers.  It is here so that everyone who enters knows they are in the “Spiritual Safety Zone” and reminds us all that we are safe and loved in this space.  All I can say is that I’m glad that Ella read this sign and explicitly understood its truest meaning.

By Reflections Of Light We Are All One In The Same

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“There is an endless net of threads throughout the universe.  The horizontal threads are in space.  The vertical threads are in time.  At every crossing of the threads, there is an individual.  And every individual is a crystal bead.  And every crystal bead reflects not only the light from every other crystal in the net, but also every other reflection throughout the entire universe. ”          -The Rig Veda-

Although this ancient text was written over 3,000 years ago the spiritual truth remains eternal.  My eyes glistened as I slowed down to reread the message again, and my mind found beauty within the written words of the ancient ones.  I felt the message absorb into my senses with a deeper understanding of who I am, and how connected we truly are to one another.  My light reflects to every being and their light is reflected within me.  I found myself thinking I too am eternal, and I am the combined total of all light.  I am the light of all that is good and for all that is blended.  I am everything and I alone am enough.  I am the extension of the source and I am as brilliant and wonderful as I decide to be.  We are, you and I, a wonderful blend of reflected colors and light, thread upon thread, and woven together through this masterpiece called life.

I try to keep this in mind with everyone I encounter, and every situation I face.  And now, I am finding peace as I let go of judgment and allow more love in my heart.  This is what I hear in the silence, remembering once again that together we are a cascading reflection, and we are enough.

Sex, Sex, Hot Steamy Sex, There I’ve Said It!

 

Each week, I listen to people talk about all kinds of topics. Some days it’s about family or recent issues in their life or maybe some unresolved childhood issues.  Lately, the hot topics are concerns about getting divorced, “finding one’s self”, and dating again. But what surprises me a lot is the number of women in their mid-thirties to mid-fifties who live without sex in their lives.  Many of them have zero interest, and virtually no drive, and most have minimal knowledge on how to rekindle their passion.

What?

I mean, maybe if you are mid to late nineties I could understand slowing down a bit or not having that much of a sex drive.  I’ll often ask a client “How is your sex life at home?” and they will answer “Nonexistent” and sometimes I find they even sleep in a separate bedroom from their partner.  Where is the thrill in that?  I promise you, this is certainly going to kill your chances for ‘spontaneous’ sex or at the vey least, decrease your chances of actually having sex at all!  If EVER!

So, because of this, I have decided to dedicate the next several posts on this very seemly taboo topic!  Sex!  There, I said it. Sex, sex, sex ….. (and so far no lightening strikes!)

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Oh ….. how cool is this …. the song just flipped on my player while I am typing as “Let’s Get It Started” by the Black Eyed Peas begins playing.  Let’s get it started in here ….

First things first, let’s clear the air and call it what it is … sex is normal, completely natural and a heck of a lot of fun when done ‘right’. I think that many of you have just forgotten how good it can feel, how pleasurable it can be, and how incredible the connection is with your partner.  So, please, for those of you that tell me that you’re just not interested in it, I say hogwash!  Let’s take statements like “I don’t care if I ever have sex again” and put that in the bin and haul it out with the morning trash.

Secondly, let’s stop treating the topic of sex like it’s a “hush hush” subject. It isn’t and it certainly doesn’t have to be. In my opinion it’s probably only turned into one because way back when some uptight person decided it was (for them anyway), deemed sex shouldn’t feel good and passed the word along that it should stay hidden.  Unfortunately they hid it so well, they probably forgot where they placed their passion. Sex is a wonderful normal function, and we should be able to talk about it openly.

And for some of you that might be thinking that I must be talking about being a complete floozy or “swinging from a chandelier”, I am not (not that there is anything wrong with that if I did). For sake of this conversation, I am only talking about having healthy sex between two consenting adults … or three … well, three or four … yeah, maybe four tops!

So, friends, mothers, daughters, and girlfriends alike, let’s stop being afraid to talk to each other about sex.  Let’s stop acting as if there is something wrong with it or wrong with actually liking it.  Let’s talk more openly with each other about what feels good, what goes on behind closed doors, and give each other helpful tips. You might be surprised what you will learn when someone says “Have you ever tried …?”

“You say your husband wants what???”

 

You Are A Brilliant Reflection of Light

“There is an endless net of threads throughout the universe.  The horizontal threads are in space.  The vertical threads are in time.  At every crossing of the threads, there is an individual.  And every individual is a crystal bead.  And every crystal bead reflects not only the light from every other crystal in the net, but also every other reflection throughout the entire universe. ”          -The Rig Veda-

Although this ancient text was written over 3,000 years ago the spiritual truth remains eternal.  My eyes glistened as I slowed down to reread the message again, and my mind found beauty within the written words of the ancient ones.  I felt the message absorb into my senses with a deeper understanding of who I am, and how connected we truly are to one another.  My light reflects to every being and their light is reflected within me.  I found myself thinking I too am eternal, and I am the combined total of all light.  I am the light of all that is good and for all that is blended.  I am everything and I alone am enough.  I am the extension of the source and I am as brilliant and wonderful as I decide to be.  We are, you and I, a wonderful blend of reflected colors and light, thread upon thread, and woven together through this masterpiece called life.

I try to keep this in mind with everyone I encounter, and every situation I face.  And now, I am finding peace as I let go of judgment and allow more love in my heart.  This is what I hear in the silence, remembering once again that together we are a cascading reflection, and we are enough.

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Sometimes It’s The Little Things That Seem So Obvious

Ever notice something about a person’s life or situation that seems very obvious to you, but the person that you’re talking to doesn’t notice?  Or, it seems that they have been repeating the same pattern over and over again, but they haven’t noticed the connections between their patterns and their life situations?

I have the privilege of hearing people’s life stories on 74efb1530f8e39d1f7c311184c1c67eca daily basis.  I recognize patterns or behaviors very quickly, but I’m bothered when some clients are blind to these (because they don’t want to see?).  My role as a coach is to point out these behaviors and patterns, to help people see things that are obvious to everyone else, and to help them recognize the effects on their life.

Let me explain …

Of course, it sure seems obvious to me that your relationship is not going down a happy path when your husband or boyfriend doesn’t come home for nights on end, texts pictures of his “body parts” to others, or drinks too much, or does drugs, or has a serious gambling problem, etc. etc. etc.  The list goes on and on.  I know that you are unhappy and uncertain (you’ve been telling me this for weeks) but you can’t (or won’t) see or accept the pattern of behavior that is there in front of your eyes and can’t (or won’t) put “2 + 2” together and see the situation that is obvious to the rest of us. Instead you excuse it away.

How about another example …

You come to me and tell me how lousy you feel, how your clothes don’t fit well anymore, how you have no energy or drive.  Yet, you have no idea why this is happening to you.

When I look at your life, I see you driving through Bojangles or McDonalds several days each week (you stated), swinging through Starbucks each day for that cafe latteIMG_0414 with that 370 calorie (19 grams of fat) cookie to go with it (“it’s only one cookie!”).  Snack all day, eat enormous portion sizes, and … dare I say it … keep putting off joining the gym or doing any exercise at all.  It’s no surprise to me to see why you have a weight issue or at the very least why you don’t feel good.  I mean, I’m no rocket scientist, but of course you don’t feel well!

Okay, the point I want to make and the “message for the day” is to

 

PLEASE PLEASE PLEASE stop pretending that you don’t see these behaviors, patterns, and the ‘red flags’ that are warning you of issues in your life.  Take care of yourself!  Stop ignoring the signs and that little voice of wisdom inside of you when it speaks shouts!

IMG_1708You don’t have to sign up for a marathon, or make a similar life-altering change to make improvements in your life.  Instead, start small.  Pick one aspect of your life to start with (like eating healthier, moving your body, etc.) and make that work.  Stick with it and start feeling the benefits, by making then add another small change.  You’ll build on one success after the other, create new and lasting habits and, before you know it, you’ll see the improvements and enjoy a happier, healthier life.

 

Ever have one of these exposed days?

Ever have one of these days?

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Usually I am (thankfully) pretty even tempered. I am not hormonal, as a rule, so I don’t fluctuate a whole lot. If anything, I may get hyper or excitable over something really good or something I enjoy a lot, like a mint chocolate chip ice cream cone or a cute picture of a Boston Terrier that someone posted on Facebook.  Or, maybe a texting marathon into the wee hours of the night with my daughter over the show details of The Bachelorette (she likes short shrimpy men).  Yeah, I’m really that easy!  But, I can honestly say that I don’t experience too many bad moody days.

Except for the other day, I am almost embarrassed to admit  ….. I snapped like a twig. I irritatingly rushed to answer my phone (during my lunch, mind you) while going through emails at my desk and simply trying to do too many tasks at once.  On the other end of my phone was this cool sounding seasoned telemarketer with an extremely heavy Indian accent.  She could have cared less that I couldn’t make heads or tails out of the company she was with, or that I couldn’t make out the purpose of the call.  Me, the hot-tempered raving lunatic was, let’s just say, less than ‘cool’ as my mind still tried to grasp the name of her company.  I felt my blood pressure rise as she continued on with her rehearsed script and me, the Pit Bull, was unwilling to be amused by her memorized lines.

I was like a CRAZY person …. a completely imbalanced bitch from hell …. as I caught myself yelling into the phone!  She was trying to sell me eyelash serum!  Eyelash serum!  I wasted 60 seconds (well, it felt a whole lot longer at the time) of my overworked, multitasked life for eyelash serum!

“Oh yeah, Diahanna, you’re really a pro” I thought, angry at myself for the unwarranted outburst and misdirected anger.

So, I decided to cool off, sit quietly in my room, and chill out.  I was like a lunatic, and this whole episode felt odd.  Before I left the office for home, I decided to deal with every thing that was truly bothering me.  My goal was to get rid of it, get it off my plate, and to never speak of it again.  Why?  Because if I told my husband or vented to a friend (or maybe two), I would relive this sense of aggravation each and every time I spoke of it.  Bringing it up over and over again, which may appear as harmless, takes things in the opposite direction of where I want to be and what I want to feel.

Message for the day:

Handle quickly and with as little effort as possible what ever it is that is keeping you from feeling good.  I did that, and never spoke of it again (example: the telemarketer).  I didn’t run home and tell my husband that I had a “bad” day, I simply kept my mouth shut and distracted myself with things to help me feel just a little bit better.  Sometimes, that is the quickest path to get back on the road to a happier life.  For instance, you could take a walk, play with your dog, throw a ball in the backyard, color or paint, or read a book, sing with the radio, or play the piano.  Just do anything to distract yourself from your “problem” and move yourself into a better feeling. Keep it up lithely little and you will begin to feel better and better.  Then, just get on with living happily.

Eye lash serum anyone?

Do You Think Trees Are Rooted In Fear Or Unhappiness?

565032_425759924150868_1276026420_n copyDo you know what I love about trees? They are so beautiful to look at especially in the fall when the colors change from lush greens to brilliant hues of reds, oranges and yellows. I like that trees offer shade when needed on those hot summer days, and they can offer guidance if necessary to help you make your way through a forest (like, let’s say if you are lost).  Speaking of a forest, that happens to be my favorite place to sit and meditate. I like the feelings I get when sitting under a tree, and the smell of the wood and moss, or when I hear the birds chirp in the branches above. Trees offer us protection from the elements and provide us wood to build homes.  They have medicinal healing properties and provide food to the many animals and insects.

Trees can live for hundreds of years. The current individual tree record-holders are the Great Basin Bristlecone Pine trees from California and Nevada in the United States. A colony of 47,000 quaking aspen trees is considered one of the oldest and largest organisms in the world. The colony has been estimated to be 80,000 years old. Kind of cool, huh?

photo 27 copyNow listen to this, and please smile when you read, that while we both may like trees, YOU are not one.  You are a human being.  Code word: B-E-I-N-G!  We were not made to necessarily grow and stay in one spot FOREVER MORE!  We were created to expand, to move, to grow, and experience all that we came here to experience.  Not necessarily stay in one spot for hundreds of years!  Especially and I do mean this, especially if you’re unhappy.

Now here’s the whole point of today’s post …… If you don’t like where you are, then move. You are not a tree, you’re not stuck in one place!  Tree - Move

We can all have a bad day from time to time, so I am not speaking of that, but what I am speaking of is if you are unhappy the majority of the time.

If you are gripping and complaining constantly about this situation or that situation, or about your current employment, or your current partner/spouse, or the town of which you live, or of your body size, or worse yet, all of these things!

 

IMG_0497You have the ability to make some changes, move and create something new.  If you are unhappy, do anything you can to find happiness.  Let’s consider me the voice of reason, or at the very least the urging of your soul …. move out of that lousy relationship, change your employment or career, go to school or back to school, find some interests in life and begin a hobby or move from your city or state in which you live.  You were never meant to stay in any of those things for life.  Especially if you are unhappy.  Stop being rigid or afraid and move yourself into another direction.

Hey even an unhappy or sick tree can get transplanted to another location if necessary.  So stop sticking your roots into unhappiness and fear, you have the ability to move.

Let me help you by using my inner guidance to help you find yours! Email:insights0333@gmail.com